Hello, hello. I have written the first sentence to this post and deleted it about 20 times now; only because I am not sure where to start! I created this blog with the intentions of reaching out to others who are paving their way of life like myself, and being a true-life example of the ups and downs of this journey that not many people may talk about openly, or post all over the internet. Today we are living in a society where social media takes over (which we’re all aware of) and perfection is the new norm. When we look at other people’s Instagram or Facebook it’s so easy to compare and wish for the perfection we see in those photos. Guess what? That’s not entirely real. I’m not saying that every picture posted on social media is fake, but it’s only a glimpse into someone’s life. I could use this post to talk about the surface level stuff; that these pictures above show some of my favorite pieces in my closet – the heels, cut-offs, slouchy bag, and a white tee (aka: necessities)… and although styling is incredibly important to me and a creative outlet, I am choosing to go a little deeper with this one.
These pictures were taken a few days before a breakup and I didn’t have it all together during the shoot. I simply went through the motions of posing for these pictures all while feeling those terrible feelings of knowing a relationship is coming to an end (you know what I mean). I pushed myself to go out and take those pictures because it’s what I LOVE TO DO. Sometimes life feels like it’s never going to look up or things might never change… I know the feeling, but everything passes. EVERYTHING passes. I have experienced heartbreak, love, tragedy, loss, joy that makes me cry, and spiritual awakenings. Life is meant to surprise us – how else would we learn? How else would we grow? We wouldn’t. I seem to always thank God when things are great, but forget to thank the universe when turning my world upside down. It’s easy to be grateful when things seem perfect, but what about when things aren’t even close to perfect? Have you ever met someone who seems to have it all together, and their life looks perfect? Probably. Have you ever met someone who has experienced the ups and downs of life, but may be pessimistic? Most likely, yes. Have you met those people who go out of their comfort zone, have gone through ups and downs, have learned from those experiences, and you feel so inspired by just talking to them? I hope so! That is the person I strive to be.
It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself, mope around, and say “why me?!” But that will get you nowhere. If you’re going through one of life’s downs, allow yourself the time to grieve or be sad, but at some point (sooner rather than later) you have to put your big girl panties on, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do what makes you happy! That is why I will continue to do the things that I love and inspire me every day, even if I don’t feel completely up to it – Like putting on those damn high heels, styling clothes, and posing for pictures 😉
I leave you with a quote (and outfit details below) –
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.
TOP / Zara
SHORTS / Urban Outfitters
SHOES / Zara
BAG / Zara
SUNNIES / Warby Parker